Amanda Bynes; Willow and Jaden Smith, Justin Bieber and Britney Spears. Images provided by: Albert L. Ortega; David Livingston of Getty Images and Wire Image, Yahoo movies
Ah, success. Success is like a run-a-way train; you board the train and when it takes off at the speed of light you believe it will be too difficult to jump off. Having children, Mocha is often told, is similar to a run-a-way train. Often times a parent wants to jump off, but knows she/he can’t. When Mocha was a little girl she told her mother she wanted to have children. Unfortunately her mother’s reaction was not receptive.
“You kidding? Children? You’ll lose your figure, you’ll worry for the rest of your life, you’ll age a thousand years and your tits will fall to the ground and fracture your toes. But, it’s up to you, you do whatever you want.”
Alas, ole Mocha never made it to motherhood or marriage, but Mocha always wondered what type of parent she would have been had she become one. And if she gave birth to “talented” children and fancied not having to work the rest of her life and allow her kids make all the money, would she? Mocha is not one to judge, she admires people who give up their lives to raise, nurture, fret over and make sure their children become productive, healthy and happy adults, who wouldn’t want that? But, while the responsibility of being a RESPONSIBLE adult is important, oftentimes it is also very daunting.
When a child becomes a well-paid artist unfortunately parental responsibility is shifted to “managers,” “agents” “YES people” “stylists,” etc. whose main agenda is to make sure their “commodity” stays in tact for the good of entertainment. There is nothing wrong with bringing a parent’s most precious commodity into an often over-the-top, brutal and stressful “business,” but Mocha believes being a parent BEFORE the child becomes a working commodity is VITAL. Structure, authority, monitoring your child and LOTS OF LOVE and understanding play a very big role. Mocha knows all about this, she had a very attentive, and nurturing parent. Actually, Mocha did a little acting when she was a child and her mother was right there to monitor her.
When Mocha was ten years old her mother took her to an audition for the Urban production of the play ANNIE. It was called LITTLE ORPHANED ANNIE LEE AND HER MAGIC AFRO, Mocha auditioned for and won the role of Annie Lee. But, Mocha’s mother forgot to tell the director that Mocha was a poor reader and she occasionally stuttered. Mocha understands now that she was dyslexic and she stuttered when she was nervous. But, Mocha’s mother knew how much Mocha wanted to be on stage so she helped Mocha with lines, she taught Mocha how to breathe to calm her nerves and she brought Mocha to rehearsals and watched attentively to make sure no “hanger’s on” or bad influences got in Mocha’s way. Mocha was her mother’s most valuable commodity and no one was going to get in the way of seeing Mocha to a productive adult.
Mocha got through reading her lines just fine, she even read her cast mates lines, on stage sometimes! More importantly, Mocha shined bright as Annie Lee, only stuttered sporadically and when it came time to flying three inches above the stage floor on cables, Little Orphaned Annie Lee’s afro was like a magic carpet jetting across the stage, Mocha wasn’t nervous, she happily flew around and smiled bright. Unfortunately, one night the guy working the cable got drunk when his wife left him and took their cherished Beagle. When it came time to jet Annie Lee across the stage to save her orphan roommates from evil Miss Hannalotta, the cable guy fell asleep and Mocha was briskly whisked stage left into thankfully a padded wall, but she got knocked the hell out. It was definitely a hard knock life and hard knock smack against the wall for Mocha! Mocha emerged from that experience just fine, she only occasionally sees double and gets dizzy whenever she rides escalators. And kudos to Mocha’s mother for being a dutiful parent and for making sure the fat six-figure check she got from the production company in lieu of litigation went toward her child’s welfare, college education, a new house and a few things for mom as well. Yes, Mocha had a good life!
Mocha wishes all young entertainers the best in their life’s journey. Whatever they are going through they must realize they are not alone. More importantly, no one hates them because they took time off for illness or overwork or they got arrested for being foolish. These people are young vital human beings who should be loved and nurtured by their parents FIRST, never mind the allure of success or what others think. Their parents should be mature enough to nurture and guide their most precious and valuable children, and help them deal with the wolves and trappings of Hollywood. And if their child must take a chance and jump off the train, they should allow them to jump. There is so much more to life than being on stage.
Mocha’s mantra for young celebs: If you DO jump off the train, you won’t be killed, because the train of success is only running away at a slow pace. Life is what moves fast.
Mocha’s Vodka of Choice for young celebs: For children 21 and over and parents because Mocha’s mother often told her “oh my goodness, you’re driving me to drink!,” Hangar One Vodka. For young people under 21, sorry no alcohol.
Mocha’s drink of choice for young celebs: A Midori Sour Vodka cocktail for the adults, vodka, Midori melon liqueur, whiskey sour mix, Sprite and cherries. Shake with ice and pour over chilled glass with sugar on the rim. For the kiddies under 21, a “virgin” Midori Sour.
Until next time this is the Mocha Bus Pass Lady and her 4-Head Diaries signing off and wishing all young Hollywood nothing but the best. Learn to love yourselves, drink in moderation, no drugs if you can help it and learn to value your body and your life because you and your body are only young ONCE. Cheers!